It is unfair, without a doubt. I, too, asked my H what was wrong for about a year, told him that I was kind of jealous that his friends got to see the fun H when we never got to go out, etc.

It's in your best interest to get past this point. Hard, yes. It took me six months, at least. But since we've been separated for this past three and a half months, I've come quite a ways and feel so much better than I did the previous year before that.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.