Alison, listen to those hormones cos they are telling you something that others have told you many times during your battle. Sometimes we hang on way past sensible or rational because we are scared, no one will want us, our H was the only real love. We hang on for grim death to a marriage we didn,t actually have but thought we had or could have. We hang on to a possession or an ideal not reality. I,m not saying you did this, but obviously others find you attractive and fun and maybe you can see a life after H? You both must have been relaxed in each others company for the guy to say that. So good for you I know these events don't happen all the time but its a lovely feeling to hold onto. Maybe you will end up even happier than before and wonder why on earth you caused yourself (H is included in that too) so much heartache. This is not what we wanted but it is up to us to be the best we can be and find happiness in how we proceed with life. Your kids will see it to and I am sure will be happier for it. Good for you ps did you swap numbers or is he already in your group? ok I,m just nosey
