Still trying to be patient

[karen43]

I know that I wasn't ready. We had told each other that we would talk about stuff before either of us did anything. Then he just went ahead and did it. The walls came down around me, but I am still here.
I wish this affair was something I could just unplug and drop in a bucket of water but I can't. I think with the hearing tomorrow I am just too focused on him and I need to stop for right now.
kat

Kat, I think that's so awful that your H just went ahead and did it! If I was going to be the one filing for divorce ever, I know I would want to tell the person and let them know they're going to be served and when and everything. I think some of our H's and W's don't have a sensitivity chip or something. I think my H will do the same thing, though, figuring that I should already know since he has told me he wants a divorce and is getting the money info from me.

I feel the same way about my H's affair, but I also think my H has almost been living like a single person the last couple years going out and about whenever he wanted, so I think he wants to make it official though. Doesn't want the family responsibilies or whatever anymore, just the fun. I wonder if he will think it's fun to be old and alone though?

Of course with a hearing tomorrow you're going to be focused on your H!!! I hope you are trying to take as easy a day as you can today, try to do something relaxing (as relaxed as you can get I guess)! I think I will be joining you soon, too! Karen