Unfortunately, yes, much of that is considering "anti-DB." Other posters got banned back in February and March for even stating such things, but I'm only advocating what worked for me in my sitch. Everyone has to make up their own minds about things like exposure, "tough love," boundaries, etc.
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Oh, yikes! Okay. I better read the book first before I suggest what comes natural to me. Yeah, that's really been working good for me, huh? lol
I can see that I have a long way to go. I don't let people walk on my dignity or disrespect me, especially when it affects my children. So much of it sounds like enabling to me. I'm not sure DBing is for me, then. I'd rather walk away with healthy self-respect and my children's respect than to let my H do things that are detrimental to this family and that bring out adverse reactions in me.
I guess I should just read and not post. lol I have a lot to learn. Although, I'm not sure I want to "unlearn" maintaining my dignity. Then again, cleaning the toilet with my H's toothbrush when he was cheating on me wasn't very dignified, huh? :-) Oy, I've got so far to go! Okay, off to find a copy of the book!
Good luck, Kolle. Looks like you are getting sound advice here.
