Thanks OC. Haven't moved yet. Soon! So much to do.
As much as I thought otherwise, I've always been very naive. Even after all this has happened, I think I still am.
Been making a mental list of all the "healthy" things H still needs to do before coming back. Because I'd love to see him come home, I'm not sure I'd label these as conditions, but things I'd ideally hope he'd accomplish on his journey to being a better man:
- be a better father: spend more time with kids, be more active/interested in their lives, bond with S2 (or even talk about S2 half as much as he talks about S5)
- make amends with his father: maybe discussing personal issues/feelings is expecting too much, but at the very least, talk about his reasons for leaving family business and starting his own company
- be more financially responsible: H is very generous, but it is still my MIL that is supporting the bulk of my expenses. H really needs to clue in on the value of money and realize the financial consequences of his actions over the past 2 years.
- go out less: currently, he's out 4-5 nights a week. The crowd he hangs around with (or at least used to - not sure if it's changed) has a bad rep. H drinks a lot and still spends a lot of money on drinks.
Geez, looking at this list makes my sitch seem even more hopeless. H has so much work to do. Oh, and I totally forgot the part about getting ogre out of his life. Even if he did decide to start with one of these things I've listed, it'll be a long long time...
