What can you do about it? It depends on the boundary. If it's "no cellphone calls to OM from inside our home," then the next time she is doing it, you walk in on her (amazingly, some betrayed spouses actually GIVE THEIR WAYWARD SPOUSE PRIVACY in which to conduct these calls!) and say "If that's your boyfriend, that that's incredibly disrespectful to have this conversation from inside our house. Please take that outside from now on."
If it's "no texting OM from a cellphone that we're paying for with family funds," and she continues to do so, then cut off the phone and make her pay for her own.
If it's "no chatting with other men on MySpace," and she does it, then there are all sorts of things you can do with the computer to not enable that behavior.
Usually, such harsh actions aren't even needed, at least not more than ONCE. The mere firm communication of the boundary, with conviction, is enough.
Puppy
Hi Pups.
I absolutely love this idea.
The only problem is she is an adult and not a kid. When my kids misbehave I remove their computer's power chord, or I lock up the playstation.
I feel this has the potential to backfire in a MAJOR way if I handle her the way I handle my kids. I know much of what she does is infantile, but I would not want to treat her like an infant.
I would definitely resent her if she treated me that way.
Is there a way to communicate it without making her feel like I am treating her like a kid? Any ideas?
Kolle
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