I can see calling your Female roommates about dinner, I can even see you calling your male roommate for dinner too. The BIG RED FLAG HERE IS SHE LOVES HIM. Do you see what I mean? This girl LOVES him. Do you really think she thinks of him as only a ROOMMATE. And even if he has told her he doesn't love her, how fair is it to her for him to stay with her. I say that's selfish on his part, because he's only thinking of himself.
Another BIG RED FLAG, why doesn't she want to meet whitelight? Did it bother you to meet your male roommates friends? Another red flag in my book.
whitelight is feeling something, and right now she's thinking it might be something she's doing, ok, fine, she's going to work on that. My gut is saying it's him, and his unfinished business with his so called ROOOMMATE.
