We were so happy & so much in love, he was almost obsessed with me. He would call all the time just to say he loved me & ask me if I loved him. He bought me an SUV for Xmas 2006, so you could tell then he wasn't planning this.
I could have written something very similar about my H. I always thought he loved me more than I loved him so I would never have to worry about him leaving me. Gee was I wrong!
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I'm so glad I have found this site! Thank you so much for your support, I'm really having some hard days.
This site has been a godsend to me. It has help me not feel so alone and I can't tell how much it helps to have others who understand what you are going through. Keep posting...vent, ask questions, read other's threads and comment. We are all helping each other get through this.
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How long does this usually last?? I know everyone is different.
If your H is having a MLC it will take time...lots of time...and lots of patience. Here is a link to the MLC Resources. Read this especially the Six Stages of MLC. People have said here that MLC takes 2-7 years. I am approaching 15 months post bomb and seeing positive movement from my H but I am trying not to dwell too much on where he is in all of this. We LBSs are constantly reminding ourselves to keep our expectations at zero and not to pay too much attention to where we think our spouses may be in the stages. There are no guarantees that our spouses will return and that is part of the reason why we have to detach, GAL and work on our PMA.
Hang in there...this is a long journey but, as hard as it is to believe, you will find it rewarding in ways you never expected.
