Just paying a flying visit to the BB and wanted to drop by and deliver a hug!
((((((((((((Barb)))))))))))
You are a great Mum, but your D is an adult and needs her head. You have done all the groundwork for a great relationship with her in the future, but her life is hers to lead now, and she needs to make decisions for herself. There is every chance that once she is out of the house your relationship will improve - mine did whenever I didn't live in my mother's (small) flat. As a young adult there were times I lived with her on and off and they were OK, but sometimes fraught. I bet you will eat more meals together after she moves out. For instance, it would be a nice thing to set up a regular arrangement, like she comes over to sit down and eat Thursday dinner with you. And you meet up once a week for lunch out somewhere. Forgive me if I am culturally way off the mark!
I think you are very well placed to see the silver lining in every situation Barb. I have full confidence in that!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
