Can't disagree with you. I listen to you take responsibility for causing the separation over and over, and wonder if you were really as mean as you say, or if you are being humble. Doesn't really matter. People can overcome adversity if they want to, or they can keep running from their past. But just as she wonders if you will really be able to change from the angry person you used to be, I wonder if she will change from the footloose fancifree spirit she has become. Worse than going through heartbreak when you are young and newly married is going through this when you are 10 years older and have 2 kids. I'm not saying people can't change, they can. But they have to really want to. They have to recognize their flaws and they have to actively fight the unwanted behavior. She is nowhere near that now.
