It is helpful seeing the clarity in your decision.
I'd been married 25 years when my drama ensued with my spouse leaving the house two weeks after he said he was miserable in our marriage. He then immediately filed divorce papers and secretly started living with a much younger woman I didn't know he was 'dating' during our marriage. He now sees the two remaining kids at home (S17, D13) one hour each, every other week by his own choice. I am a stay at home mom, he has the big job.
When do you draw a line in the sand and let go of the rope? Sometimes I think that's the only way to truly start growing, when your life does not revolve around the other spouse's whims. "Hello dear, I have a life. It's your choice how you approach it and there are no guarantees."
A friend of mine was telling me that when everything is all said and done that I will come out of this with integrity and having taken my vows seriously. I don't think it's taking the high road, rather it's living as the person I want to be.
