Well, no replies on the question about helping her on non-kid items. I agreed to help. Why not? Maybe I can DB with detached kindness.
Update: I had my first Divorce Support Group Meeting last night. It was part class, part prayer and scripture and part group therapy/conversation. I was very interested in the opinions of two WAW's in my group and how they would get back with their husbands if they could "trust" them again. Maybe that's what the DBing with patience and consistency is all about. This group is another GAL activity that I have going with exercise and two church groups. I find that being with other people in the GAL activities really help. I realized in the group just how much that I love my W and Family and want the M to work. I spilled my feelings with my story and am still very much in the DB/DR Mode. The stories of the others were interesting, especially the bitterness that many have. My W seems a little more relaxed the more that I detach. She is getting more and more comfortable around me. I am trying to get our interaction back to "normal".
