I have been thinking and praying about you and your little ones. And I pray for your husband, too.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Cinders, I was sorry to read that your little one has been ill. I do hope that she's doing much better today. I'm glad to see that her father has stepped up to the plate to be there for her and for you during this time. I imagine it was quite strange to have him in the house once again. However, you've done what it takes to keep things moving along and you've shown him that you are a woman of grace and dignity have put your family first.
Cinders, you have grown so much over the years. You are an inspiration to all that post here. You've set an example of what is a very difficult thing to do--turned the other check when it comes to your children discussing the ow around you and your h. I admire you for that. You've shown your h and yes, the ow too, that you can and will continue to hold your head up high, walk the line w/a straight back and will not allow them to bring you down to their level. You are a kind and caring person who loves her family more than life itself and it shows in everything you say and do. The man upstairs is watching over you and your little family and no matter what transpires, all of you will be okay.
Please take care of yourself and those darling little ones.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
When my son started school, he fell in love with his teacher. She was the most wonderful person in the world; he was even planning to marry her (It was that serious ) Several months down the line, we were talking about our summer holiday when he said he wanted to send ‘Miss P’ on holiday. You mean you want to bring your teacher on holiday with us? I enquired. No, he said I want to send her own holiday, a very long one. She is such a ‘spotty boots’. (I think he meant bossy boots)
Children are fickle. The novelty will wear off.
Nutty
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
Cinders I'm sorry to hear about your D7. I hope she is feeling better soon. My D18 has suspected mumps so she is feeling under the weather too. Fortunately she was vaccinated as a baby so it is not as serious as it might have been had she not had the jab.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I dont write much to you but thought you should know that in my case..aslo @ the start my girls use to not be able to stop talking about OW too, but it will wear offf..as they get to see her REAL self showing..
At the start just like H was in awe @ how great Ow was w/ all three of our girls but he just couldnt 'like' her D11 the same. The wanna be step mother pulled all the 'acts'..from easter egg hunt, carving jack-o-lanters...and H loved how she would "get down on the floor & play along like one of the kids"
NOW the girls laugh at how OW's leg's fat jiggles (they know how good that makes me feel, especially since she is way taller than I & I pictured her tall & skinny long legs that go on forever! D10 tells me how OW is snobbish...and how sometimes they misss me & dont want to be @ OW's on the weekends.
You are getting a lot of good posts Cinders. It isn't just to make you feel better. They are right. Over time, the novelty will wear off.
It is common to want to like someone else to get approval and more attention from another person. The OW may be fascinating or the kids feel that, in order to get their dad's attention, they have to "like" the OW. The kids may not even be aware they are doing it.
If we are enamored by you, I can imagine how it must be for your children to have a mom like you!
Keep the faith, little sis!
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
) Several months down the line, we were talking about our summer holiday when he said he wanted to send ‘Miss P’ on holiday. You mean you want to bring your teacher on holiday with us? I enquired. No, he said I want to send her own holiday, a very long one. She is such a ‘spotty boots’. (I think he meant bossy boots)