The other night when she sat chatting for hours with another guy I told her again that dating other guys before we were divorced was completely unacceptable, even if it was in cyberspace. Of course she told me that since she was divorcing me it was none of my business and I should bugger off. She's not my W anymore and I have no claim over her and that is that.
So what did you DO about that? You laid out a supposed "boundary" for her, and yet there was no consequence for her violating it. That makes it not a boundary at all; more like a "wish", as in "I wish you wouldn't . . . "
What am I supposed to do? Tell her to move out? She'll refuse to go without the kids. The judge will have to decide who gets the kids. Tell her I'll move out? She'll say HALLELUYA! Thats exactly what she wants. Scream and shout? Doesn't work, it makes matters worse. I did not scream or shout but I did start a sort of subdued argument, and that ended bad enough.
I must just say, I think I did not present the facts very well. Her EA ended after I contacted the guy. The chap she had the chat with the other night as been there all along, frome her Myspace days but she never connected much to him. The other night was the first time I am aware of that she had such a long talk with him. I called it "Dating" because even if you are not involved yet it seems that the aim of it is to find someone to get involved with. Like going on a date with someone you do not know very well in order to see if it could lead somewhere.
Me 43 W 42 M 1998 S16 S15 D7 D4 bomb 07/03/2007 OPA ILYBNILWY My Thread
