heard through friends that ex had been seen in the church he attended whilst he was at school playing his trumpet in a concert there. ex used to play the trumpet in a brass band many moons ago, he packed in when we had our son as he didn't have time anymore, hasn't played since, as for going back to his old church and playing in a concert, no just not him, but I bet it was funny to watch.
I have been reading some of the sitch's on this forum and note that I am not the only one with an mlc'er acting like this. I have spoke to my solicitor today, she states that she has been in touch with ex's solicitor and he is no longer acting for him, I told her I am getting extremely impatient with ex regards him signing over son's bank accounts into my name, this was on the court order back in december, he should have done it by 1st January, hello he wanted us out of his house we did that, but he can't deal with his side of the bargain, I said I am worried that ex will or has withdrawn son's money from these accounts and it is a substantial amount we are talking about, the fact that he won't do what a court order stated is beyond me, it isn't his money it is our son's, if he as spent it then he will have to replace it but that is not the point, the point is it isn't his and he will have robbed his son, it is one thing to put your son out of his home and not bother with him it is another to steal his money and inheritance as well, what gives with them. There is no way out of this for ex, the house hasn't sold yet and he as been forced to lower the price, as far as I can imagine he must be getting financially strapped, they are still living the high life, and one would imagine getting deep in debt, but he still shouldn't touch son's money. this is exactly what the thing he married does, it is a well known fact she takes blokes on who have money, blows all that gets them in debt and then gets rid of them, that is his fault, but he shouldn't stop son from having his finances, what a selfish, greedy mlc'er he is, ooh I had to stop myself getting carried away there, I feel very strongly about all this, to hell with this man, I don't care if he hasn't any money left but pray give to our son what is rightfully his.
Mandy, protect yourself and your son legally!! Don't put ANYTHING past this guy!!
Today I think I have come to a decision, and that is due to the three facts: number 1 is the fact that ex is not complying with the court order to hand over the trust of son's bank accounts to myself and son, and therefore my solicitor is going to have to take him back to court, fact number 2 is that ex is not paying any child support towards his only child, or the minimal amount that wont even keep him in milk for a month. fact number 3 is because he is such a selfish, pig-headed me me me b'''''d he as made no contact with son for over 13 months. I think it is time to change son's mobile number, this as you recall is the only lifeline left, ex is still paying this bill and I think it is only so that he can say he as still got contact with his son if he wants, he tells people that he as no contact numbers either for myself or for son because I didn't give him any when we left, although I do know that he receives an itemised bill for this phone so he knows son's number and seen as though son only calls me from it he knows mine as well, he isn't paying mega bucks out for this as son only rarely uses the damn thing, so I think it is now time to change son's number, and son wanted me to do that when we were kicked out of his home, so it isn't my idea, I think it is time to cut ex off completely, we have been at this game now for 3 years, it was 3 years last weekend when I first suspected ex of seeing someone, which he denied but I know was true, he as been married to her 18 months and I have seen nor heard any signs of progress in him. I think it is time to call it a draw, dont get me wrong we love our new home, we are happy and content I just feel that if he cannot contact or send money for son's upkeep then why the hell should he have control over him by keeping his cell phone number in his name and not handing over the bank money that is righfully son's and not his, I don't know when the time will come but I still believe he is going to regret all this one day, maybe not for what he as done to me but definately when he realises what he as done to his only child. Please let me know your feelings on this, should I swap the number of son's phone or keep the only line of contact open, for son's sake only.
just an update. I havent seen ex since he took me to court last august, neither has son, he hasn't bothered with his only child for 14 months now. I have just been up to see some friends of mine that live near my old home, the one ex is selling, as I was walking past the end of the street low and behold who should be there showing some people around but ex, funny how as he saw me he got hid behind these people so I couldn't see him, what the hell he is on is anyones guess, he is 46 years old and hiding behind peoples backs, I also noticed his hair is totally grey now and he is growing it long he looked like a bush baby I didn't get close enough to see his face, oh and new wifey weren't there to stick up for him
just an update. I havent seen ex since he took me to court last august, neither has son, he hasn't bothered with his only child for 14 months now. I have just been up to see some friends of mine that live near my old home, the one ex is selling, as I was walking past the end of the street low and behold who should be there showing some people around but ex, funny how as he saw me he got hid behind these people so I couldn't see him, what the hell he is on is anyones guess, he is 46 years old and hiding behind peoples backs, I also noticed his hair is totally grey now and he is growing it long he looked like a bush baby I didn't get close enough to see his face, oh and new wifey weren't there to stick up for him
Hi Mandyloo, Thanks for your post. We must have been posting at the same time, because if I had read your post before I wrote mine, I would have changed my mind.
I hope you are still happy in your new home and are able to move on with your life. Have a lovely week-end.
had a call from my solicitor she is going to have to take it further, it is 3 weeks since she wrote to ex and asked him what his intentions are regarding handing over son's bank accounts and also how the sale of the house is going, he hasn't replied at all, she also spoke to the solicitor that represented him in the court case he said that he as received no instructions from ex to act for him. so it appears that ex thinks that if he just ignores everyone the court order and the fact that he is in control of son's bank accounts will go away. well it won't I will fight all the way for my son's money, we lost a lot when he left and then threw us out of our home, I don't see why son should lose the money that has been placed in trust for his future, i cannot believe the change in this man, well he's not a man but a robber
