For the guy with kids and WW II

[hopeful4her]

Thank you for the pat on the back, Karen. Sometimes we get so caught up in things that it is hard to see.

Sideswiped, I couldn't imagine how hard it is to have your spouse not be home. But maybe there are two schools of thought. It may be easier to GAL and detach when spouse not home, anymore. When spouse is home, you are constantly reminded of your sitch and you can't show anything. And then acting normal and conversing and always thinking in the back of your mind how they are giving themselves to someone else, whether physically or emotionally. Still laying in bed with each other. Constantly smelling her. Seeing how good of a mother she is.

But just below the surface, you know the alien is underneath it all. Is she just doing things to get her ducks in a row. Just stringing you along. A constant mind battle.

It may be harder to connect with a spouse who is no longer home, but it is really hard to be thinking that you are connecting, but your not, when they are still home. In my sitch, my WW is not mean like some others that I read about here. She will not walk away from her kids. Some of the women here take a lot of s**t from thier spouses. It's hard to read about. I don't post a comment because I don't know what to say. It makes me greatful. I also see alot of guys taking alot of the same. Sometimes I just want to say to some people, "F that, you don't have to take that verbal abuse. Are they really worth it? You are better off. Divorce their ass."

But love is a funny thing and makes us do stupid things.

Things may look different from the outside concerning my sitch, but from the inside, I feel close to hopeless. I feel like I am in a dream that I can't wake up from. Like I'm in a fog as much as she is. I thought Jeff's sitch was hopefull and then whammo. It is still not hopeless, I know. There is always hope. But to have your W want to give up the kids willingly. On the one side, to me he is lucky. I should have it so easy. On the other, who wants to be with a woman like that. Sorry Jeff, I know you love her but... Words can't even describe.