LMG I dont know too much about L and mediaters yet you stalling a little is probably a good idea and maybe seek a l for you..they do consultations for 200-350 hr and I did get a lot of info when I went your H sounds like if he could only get it all over, he would feel better I think they equate their MLC pain to the M and that is the pressure for them to get out I dont really think it is about us b/c my H has been out Seperated for almost a year and bomb 15 months hes been running trips, spending, avoiding and playing he still looks unhappy, gained 25# so nothing works to relieve their pain. peace
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