about harder - yes and no - being a child of the divorced parents makes me understand what my kids are going through and would have to go if d happen and it make me stay longer in a fight for m. on the other hand i see my father who seems to be happy with his present wife, my mom has a boyfriend of 18 years and their r is good, too. it seems that i am the only one (i am the only child) who got a brunt of things negotiating their relationships (what to say, what not to say, how to divide time between them so they would not feel upset, how to be at two places at once for my b-day, etc.).
i am skeptical about aug. because i heard the similar speech before. i can guess that ow is still not ready to choose between her previous boyfriend and my h. so my h put a time line for her. but he did it before and it didn't make the difference - she was back a forth between my h and her boyfriend. it may be not physical back and forth now but emotional for sure. that is my best speculation re aug thing. he didn't wanted to tell me the details altho i asked. actually i am grateful for not knowing because details usually are too painful anyway.
me, h - 40+ m-20+ s, d, ss - 20+ s, ow, pa since 04.2007 h back and forth 01.2008 - 05.2008 h decided to be w/ow 05.13.2008 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1415899&page=1&fpart=1