JoieDeVivre, you are an amazing strong woman to stand by your H's side throughout all of this. I do not honestly think I could do that. I am not one that can give you much advice about the drinking since I have not had to experience that before. But, if you two can beat this OW in the courts, I hope that will give your H some incentive to work on his drinking. If he seriously understands the damage it is doing to the M and even to his R with his daughter......maybe he will. If he doesn't...then you may need to consider a family intervention. Sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't. If you choose to stay with him even with his drinking problem, I hope you will go to that support group for the families of alcoholics.
God bless. Take care of yourself and keep hanging on.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
