Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

[JennyF]

Well then don't force the forgiveness. Accept today's reality as just that, today's reality. Stop going over and over the why's and how's of what he's done. Not to mention the fact that your H isn't "done" what he's doing. Whatever sad thing is going on inside of him is still going on in him and is still controlling him. So ACCEPT that you can't do anything about that. You don't have to agree with it. You don't have to forgive him for that righ now...hopefully that will come in time.
Accepting this doesn't mean that you agree with it. It means that you recognize that you can't control any of it. The only thing within your control is you.
And the hurt is not going to go away the second you accept it. You also need to accept the hurt for what it is...but don't dwell on it. I don't mean "be okay" with hurting....but accept that it is a reality of this and adding all of this other stuff on top of it will just compound it.

Gotta run....D is trying to use the potty and I'm in fear of my bathroom floor!
J~