Finding DB late in the game #4

[cw68]

Sara, I think you're spot on. This is real communication, it wasn't a ploy to make him feel guilty (been there, done that) or anything. This was me sharing how I feel. In the letter, there were no accusations and anything that I said the kids were going to feel was a result of us. There was a lot of "we" in the letter.

Interesting afternoon. I responded to his Range Rover text with telling him I knew he wasn't trying to avoid anything and that we should probably talk vs. email anyway. Jokingly replied to the Range Rover part with a "I told you so. Can finally say that w/out worry. ;)" and that I still wished him a happy b-day. He responded during his layover with "Thanks, it's a joyous day. Seriously, it is all good. yes this is a difficult time, but in the big picture, things could be a lot worse." I wondered if he meant that divorce isn't the worst thing that could happen. But decided that I wasn't going to approach this anymore.

I texted him that dinner plans we made for Weds conflict with one of my friend's b-day dinners. The dinner is on a night that he has the kids, and it's with a group of friends that I've become closer to since my H and I separated. A couple of weeks ago I told him about the dinner and that he was invited and he said he'd come. So I sent a cryptic text that just said Jesse's bday conflicted with the planned dinner here. I wasn't forcing him to choose if we were going to go dark from each other, just wanted to put that out there so he wasn't expecting the dinner. He responded with, "Ah, yes, do you want to do Swiss steak thurs or friday?" So he's still planning on coming out with us on Weds AND to still have dinner together.

I can't wait to hear his thoughts from this morning's email. Regardless, I'm going to put a rubber band on my wrist and just validate, let it sink in and not respond for at least 12 hours.