RTL, Keep fighting the good fight. It seems your lawyer has a good head on their shoulders as well. As for your D, there will be a time where she will insist that you be involved regardless of what your STBX has to say about it.
If you do what you need to do, your D will see it and you will be rewarded in all of this...
Me=29 WAW=25 S=2 "I need a break" = 6/07 Filed = 12/07