The roommate thing isn't a red flag. I just feel like I'm not getting enough attention from this guy and I thought maybe it's because of his roommate.
Anyway...something VERY interesting is happening in the world of whitelight.
My sister just called and accused me of hurting her feelings. I hardly ever talk to her or spend time with her(her choosing), but when I do, she somehow manages to get hurt. I didn't do anything wrong! I'm a good person. I never intend to hurt her, I don't go around hurting my friends or other family members. THis is just a role that she wants me to play.
and that's when the lightning bolt hit...maybe this is what I'm doing to my new guy. and maybe it's pushing him away and maybe that's why he has less attention for me.
When my sister called, she didn't call with the thought that there was a misunderstanding and let's clear it up, rather she called accusing me. Now to me, I'm used to this cycle of her's so I just sort of laughed to myself...okay now it's time to baby her for a moment.
What I noticed with my sister is something that this new guy has mentioned to me before. He said, my intention is never to hurt you. I wish you would come at me, like there was a misunderstanding and not accusing me. He said, if I continue to make you feel bad and I'm not meaning to, then this won't work. This is a conversation that we had about a month ago.
I don't think I need to be concerned about the roommate. I do think I need to be concerned with watching myself and not pushing this guy away with too much emotional drama. That's the reason I'm probably getting less attention.
OK, whitelight, if that's how you truly feel, then go for it.
I hope I'm wrong...............but, I bet if and when you ever do get to talk to his so called roommate, your going to hear a different story. Just my gut feeling, lol. I wish you the best. Keep us posted, maybe I'm way off base. But my gut's telling me I'm not.
I can see calling your Female roommates about dinner, I can even see you calling your male roommate for dinner too. The BIG RED FLAG HERE IS SHE LOVES HIM. Do you see what I mean? This girl LOVES him. Do you really think she thinks of him as only a ROOMMATE. And even if he has told her he doesn't love her, how fair is it to her for him to stay with her. I say that's selfish on his part, because he's only thinking of himself.
Another BIG RED FLAG, why doesn't she want to meet whitelight? Did it bother you to meet your male roommates friends? Another red flag in my book.
whitelight is feeling something, and right now she's thinking it might be something she's doing, ok, fine, she's going to work on that. My gut is saying it's him, and his unfinished business with his so called ROOOMMATE.
