My guess is she's not coming back any time soon... but over the coming years, if you have a comfortable friendship, things might just click two to three years from now.
You've said you don't plan on dating (but don't tell her that, you should be a little mysterious.... it wouldn't hurt if she thought every single woman at your church was on pins and needles waiting for you to be divorced ;-) ), so you really have nothing to lose by leaving the door open a crack. Don't YOU open it!!! If she wants to come back SHE will. You really lose nothing here, and quite honestly, you have a lot of self-discovery and growth to gain regardless of what happens.
Root, your posts is great as usual and I appreciate your insight. I must tell you though for a little insight into me. I am not the guy that is going to wait "years". Not because I do not love my wife but because I love myself and my kids and letting her go is the best for all of us. Just today she called and told me that she is planning on either moving across the country or out of the country. I am not setting myself up for that kind of roller-coaster ride. I hate heights and I can get motion sick from time to time.
I like the way you think about the women at church too. LOL, that is great. Inever thought of that.
Thanks so much for your input. I appreciate and like your POV.
