I know it doesn't seem like it but it is a good thing she is still at home. My h left before I knew what was going on - good old abandonment!!! Moved in with ow. But since he left he has become so cold, you would think i was a one night stand not a 16 year relationship. Keep persevering! Being so close to each other is keeping her attached. Keep with dbing otherwise she will walk all over you.