Hopeful4her - Thanks for the post. It is hard to believe there is someone else out there for you when you have been with your spouse for 16 years (from age 15!).I don't actually know any guys other than my girlfriends h's. So weird, the rest were h's friends. Gives me faith to know that if h does not come back there are good guys out there. (Just hope one finds me!)Sorry you going through what you going through.

RefuseToLose- Thank you for some amazing advice. It amazes me that such kind, caring people are the left behind spouses and that our WA's can't see this. Please keep posting as your thoughts are clear, concise and incredibly helpful.

Update: It felt like my h was up to something on his last visit. Still feels like he is not telling the truth. When it came to his sunday visit I received a call from him at 7:30am to say he would not be coming as he was sick....he did not sound sick! His visits are becoming shorter and he seems to be more distant than ever. I am not sure how to read him anymore. I feel like the end is approacihing rapidly. He is so disengaged. I feel like I am losing him for good. Any advice cos I am all out of ideas...nothing seems to be working.

At the same time I just want to scream at him...WHY DID U DO SUCH A STUPID THING ?! I would love for him to just be honest and tell me when the A started and we could clear up the truth from the lies. Silly man did not give his family a chance!!!! 8 months after having a baby he walks out our door and straight into a new place with a girl from work. I am starting to believe the bs about them being soulmates and we were a mistake and that she is the better w for him. Wish I did not love him and wish I would have seen it coming!

Rant and Rave..............if i dont do it here i will do it to him. Hmmmm maybe that sould be the 180 or maybe that would finally push him for the d. Amazing how I had a perfect life 7 months ago and know I am a made for tv movie - Well if this has to be the case I want a happy ending - a family and more kids!