Still trying to be patient

[SueS]

sideswiped-

I don't know if this will come out right or not. OW is a different option for your H, not a better one. The OW in my sitch seems to be more outgoing than I am. That doesn't mean she's better. I can't count the number of times that my H has said to people, just give yourself some time to get to know Sue....you'll see that she's not the quiet, shy person you first met.

I know it's tough not to compare yourself to OW. I've done it a thousand times. I changed. I put myself out there more, I did what my H wanted me to do in almost every aspect. In my case, it hasn't made a difference, but that has more to do with the type of person that my H is. I've come to realize that I'm not the lesser of the two of us. I'm just different than OW. You are the better one. You are the stronger one. May not feel that way at times, but you are.

I guess what I want to say is that our H's aren't strong enough to stay & work it out. It's not that you're weak or not as good. They're the weak ones. Not being a man & working it out....that doesn't take strength. You being here, being there for your child, trying to save your marriage. That takes strength. Hugs to you.

Sorry for the hijack Karen.

SueS