Quoting lostlove:well it depends..certainly if someone wants to talk bad about him they certainly can but they should know for certain what they are talking about.
Yeah. But in poepad’s defence, he doesn’t know for certain what he’s talking about. He’s speaking from his own experience, and his experience doesn’t sound like a good one. On the other hand, it sounds like he’s been pushing your buttons a little too much and not listening to what you’ve really been saying about your sit. And one thing we all have to realize is that when we read someone’s thread, we’re often reading about raw feelings. Sometimes those feelings reflect frustration rather than reality.
Quoting lostlove:to tell me that my h is working to avoid me is undermining and frankly just not nice...
now if I had been giving all kinds of examples of h being a jerk...and no examples of expressions from h that he's stressed and not liking being away (lest not forget h not so long ago told me he was feeling depressed about the kids and I going away..and also about not being around much)
I spent way to much time thinking that h was trying to avoid me..I don't need to be pulled back there because some people don't understand it.
No you don’t. And your H doesn’t need a W who’s been pulled into the mindset that he’s an insensitive oaf for working hard to support his family.
And the combination of those mindsets would sound the death knell of your M.
