Since she has opened up and given me the news, we have spent every free minute together...dinner, bars, shows, rides, family functions. My initial fears, and why I wrote in, were that we were spending too much time together. That I was not giving her enough space.....it has been a month and she has not asked for any space.
The only time we are apart is when we are working. It was the same way before we had "the talk", except then we spent the spare time bored, not doing the things that we should have been.
What I said was "she was texting me LIKE a teenager with a new phone".
Our phones are open to each other and we will even share them on occasion.
I set up her email accounts and passwords because she is not very tech savvy. She gave it to me to check her mail recently for her, because I had forgotten it.
There are very few things in my life right now that I am 100% sure of, but as for infidelity and my wife, I am about as sure as I can be. It was part of the initial conversation when this came about 4 or 5 weeks ago.
We assured each other, that no matter what was happening, that was not something that had happened, or will happen. She assured me that was not what it was all about. I know why she feels the way she does, and it is not because she wants another man.
To quote the reply from Ellie.."It is soul-destroying to feel that the man you love does not cherish you".
I know why we are where we are. I may lay a small percentage of the blame on her for not hitting me over the head with a frying pan and making me sleep on the couch....but you cannot love if you don't feel loved. We were in a vicious circle and just telling other what we thought the other wanted to hear.
Actions speak louder that words, as they say. Words are crap.
