Dont' know how old your kids are, but it is best he calls you to tell you about it so the kids are not stuck in the middle of more drama (don't try to make sense of why he does/does not do things, leaving a W of 25yrs makes NO sense).
I"m a bit confused about the L. Did you get one because he is fighting you on everything or wants a D now? or just so you dont' argue. You mentioned your L is a barracuda, um, you do not want that if you have any hopes of getting back together. A bomber L (learned that term from my mediation book) will do anything in his power to make him suffer, then he'll hate you for it, fight back with vengeance and all will go down hill. Stbx and I are using a mediator, we were not agreeing on a few points, but we did reach to good agreements with the mediator's help. It helped us save money, we were able to talk like human beings without attacking each other. I did though, see a very good L before the meetings so I made sure I was asking for the right stuff.
Good luck)))) I pray that you find peace and focus on you and the kids
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
