of course I am not pleased to hear that you think h is doing yard work to avoid spending time with me...that sounds to me like your opinion and not the facts...and if it is the fact that's pretty stupid cause there sure are other ways for h to avoid spending time with me than busting his ass out in the yard...btw fyi this is a new home (just three years) new lot etc...so there certainly is more to the yard work than just your typical yard work..we do not have any fancy beds or work like that in the yard...as a matter of fact the few mulched areas we do have were taken care of this weekend by an employee and fil (who also happens to be an employee) and next weekend the one flower bed that we do have (was created simply due to the drainage of the land) will be planted next weekend by fil...so then you may ask what is h doing??? well lately when he gets home from work..he's not out in the yard..he did the bulk of it before the busy season...what h is doing now is working in an area he cleared to get us a pool...(doing this to avoid the kids and I?? or doing this to ensure we have a nice place to spend our time during the hot summer days??) it's a large area...we took down a bunch of trees (and yes he had an employee come up and help. the whole project will probably take him all summer but he will do it in bits and pieces...sure he could tell all his customers to go screw and pay his employees to spend a week up here getting it all done..but this is HIS home and there is some satisfaction in doing it yourself..plus no money would be made that way anyway..so on some weekends he has an employee or two that are looking for extra $ come up and help out with the grunt work. as far as cutting the lawn...since h HAS deligated out the cutting of his 150+ lawn customers he doesn't get to cut and so enjoys cutting his own lawn..occassionally during the summer the employees will come up and irrate or some other odd task.
I spent to much time thinking h was working on home improvements or paying bills as a means to avoid spending time with me poe...it's just not the right attitude to take. sorry.
Quote: BUSINESS- Most entrepuor sp cannot transition to a bigger business, they get to involved in the details and end up wasting time and spending too much time at the job, because they feel they need to control everything. He needs to hire a manger for the business. Needs to think as a manager and say can this activity I am doing be done cheaper by my employee. As far as the estimates, a local salesman can easily do that for a commission. He is the typical male who defines his identity by his work. Make agreement to he be home by 6pm, and you are willing to have less money because of that. He needs to be more efficient of his time.
currently h is home by 7 and as the summer comes along there are days when h is home at 3...he needs to be more efficient with his time??? it would cost less to pay someone else to do it for him??? not likely..it would cost more and be more aggrivating in the long run...I know what it is h is having to deal with...sure there are some things that he could delegate..for example he could have put someone else in charge of the fertilizing.
look what it comes down to is this...there are some people who run a business...hire a bunch of joes to get the work done..hire out this...hire out that..you call a company called smiths such and such..to do such and such for you but you never once meet or hear from mr.smith ...a bunch of shmucks come and do the job, they do an ok job cause after all they aren't mr. smith...so why would they go the extra to ensure customer satisfaction??
my h is mr smith...his companies name is smiths such and such...you call...you speak to him...you want the job done right..you want to be treated with respect..and get the best for your money..you hire him...if you just want a half ass job done by some guy who just wants to get paid and will not be there when you need it..you call some other joe who hires out everything...
it's up to h to figure it out..I'm not enabling him..I'm living my life and trying not to let his being busy effect me..I've tried the complaining about it before and that got me to a place where h had and a and ultimately left the kids and I...so pppplbbb....he's trying to avoid me you say??? I say you don't know h and what he's all about..so he's a tad old fashion in that he wants to provide everything for his family...so he works hard to do so...so it doesn't allow for him to have much of a life..he doesn't complain about it...would I be happier if h didn't work so much but then was hanging out with the boys all the time??? I'd rather it this way.
I think at this point you can sense that you've hit a nerve poe....h does make the time...just not in the spring...and I understand that!!
