All the children are in agreement that she should just do the pain meds for comfort. Chemo we are sure will make her sick and she would have to travel over 80 miles round trip each time she does treatment and that would be to much for her. She does not like to have to be away from home at all except for the store.
Im'e thinking that we will have to have her go to a facility also if it gets to bad. No one is able to be there 24/7 and she has no funds for in home nursing. I am applying for medicaid for her to have help with any doctor bills and cover nursing home costs if need be hopefully she would be eligible.
What a mess.
H seems to be doing ok though. Even thanked me and said he appreciated all iv'e done to take care of M and all that is involved. Actually im'e the only one in the family with the experience in this area but, I would do what had to be done anyway.
Hope you are doing well.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 04/28/0801:40 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
She has lost 7 pounds in a week and the cancer is in the skull too. They do have to do radiation on that so that there will not be so much pain. but other than that there is nothing left that they can do. She is not dealing with anything right now and I don't think she will be able to.
I am doing ok. Just don't like being the one to have to do the talking for everyone. They are all kind of like their Mom and don't discuss things when need be then want me to ask questions and tell the Dr.s what we want after wards.
H is doing ok. I think he is accepting what is happening. We do need to find time for us though and that has been going by the wayside with everything going on and him trying to get my d.s nursery finished for the twins. Im'e starting to feel a little bit put on the back burner right now but, thats ok for a while.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Im sure you are under a lot of stress right now, and knowing the way your H is, it might take him some time to get to accept that this is all happening.
I know you have been in "wait" mode for awhile, but give him some "extra" time for this.. I know you will. Im sure he's going through a lot of ups and downs with the stuff that has gone on in his family.
Im sure they will all look to you because of the way you are... and that's a compliment
But Im sure that it is very trying.
If there is anything I can do, please let me know.
hugs((((jak)))
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Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Thanks TAL for the compiment! I appreciate it. Yes, H does need a lot of extra time and I don't mind one bit.
I am trying to be proactive in his mom's health care without looking like im'e taking over. I feel like I am sometimes. I am doing all of the talking in the way of what they want(or don't want) as far as treatment goes and i'm only the DIL. I guess I don't want him to think Im pushy and head the other way. By the way none of the family are talkers.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 05/05/0805:54 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
