I feel so honored you started a thread for me! I wasn't sure who was still here and who would actually remember me. There are so many new names here, so many heartbreakiing stories, it's hard for me to understand why there isn't more help for those who are left behind to wonder what happened to their relationship and family.
You mention mental issues... ha ha ha, his psych evaluation showed he needs high praise, his marriages and divorces, how he left his other 2 children and didnt' turn back, 3 of his DUIs, his constant moving/job change, until this last job in California, which of course, he blamed on me, and even said straight out, that even though he is newly married, he showed an intense attachment to me and the legal battle, but the final statement was, there appeared to be no personality disorder... ya right, this one caused me to laugh.
Oh, I failed to mention, the school noticed several changes in S, so therefore began to speak to him about his conduct, it seems he has been isolating himself from his friends, but also, acting up and differently in class. S was asked directly about what was going on at home, and he spoke honestly about many of the things his father was saying to him, about being told he was worthless, and how his father threatened him that if he spoke about going home to Kansas again, he'd beat him until one inch of his life. Well, as you'd expect, CPS was called, did an interview with him during the week Dick was in KS and left S at home alone, without tranportation, money, or supervision. CPS in turn contacted SRS (Kansas) who called me, then wrote a report, and sent it to CA, who in turn will return the report to KS, where a determination will be made.
Mean while, even though S is 16, and in any other situation/state is old enough to decide who/where he wants to live with, Dick has alleged that I've been abusing the children, therefore, the Judge has with his father, however, Dick has been court ordered to bring S back for the all day hearing in June. I just hope the Judge will listen to the children, and we can end the false allegations of abuse once and for all. I've called the school for a report on D, have scheduled appointments with the counselor for the both of them, (D has been going all along) and then plan on having full physicals done on both the children with a report from the Dr they have had since we moved here.
As for what I am doing for myself? Well, not enough truthfully, been robbing Peter to pay Paul, having to sell a lot of our stuff in order to afford the legal fees. There hasn't been a whole lot of fixing up the house since the Landlady complained that it seemed I was trying to live here for nothing... when I fixed things around here, I deducted the cost of the item from the rent, didn't charge for my time, just the items to repair. Well, her comment rather torqued me, so I've been paying rent instead of making repairs.... because I decided my time was valuable and if she didn't appreciate my time, well then, she didn't need to have it. So, I've been keeping an eye out for a place in the oountry.... although I know I won't be able to afford a farm again, some times people just sell the home place, and keep the surrounding farm for themselves. Often it's a pretty good deal, often needing a bit of repair, and even sometimes, right in my price range.... so I've been searching all the local papers in hopes I find a home for us soon.
Oh, a while back I found that study on vitamin D, and read every piece of information I could find. I didn't realize a person could should take that sort of a dose, but have been taking 800I.U. daily, along with vitamin K 80mcg and calcium 1000mg per day since reading the first article. My body doesn't digest pills very well, as often most people don't, so I've been doing the calcium chews thinking I'd absorb them better (it was a shot in the dark!)
Like I've said, I've had my ups and downs, sometimes I become so frustrated about this whole situation, feeling that I just can't be heard, wondering why Dick has been able to manipulate the court the way he has, and why his lies/blame has been taken so seriously, and why the Judge can't seem to pull his head out of his @ss, and see that he is being played like a puppet.... I just hope with the help from the couselor and the school, that finally, and once and for all the truth may start surfacing.
This recent segment of hearings has brought my income to approximately $1700/month, when Dick decides to pay his portion of support.... and $1250 when he doesn't. Of course, I send my support for S, but rarely see much from Dick. I thought it was stupid the way the Judge placed his order, considering Dick makes 10 times the income I do! If we didn't live where we do, I would be making a heck of a lot more, but anywhere else wouldn't be my children's home, where they've grown up, where they've gone to school for the last 10 years made all their friends and memories, and found the support they have had all along.
Well, again, I find myself the wordiest person on the board! Hope this isn't too long and boring!
It's good to hear from you Ellie, hope you are happy, healthy, and enjoying life to the fullest!
Love,
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Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
