One thing we learn with DR is that the only control we have to impossible situations is how we choose to reaction. You make so much happen with grace and beauty.
Think of the woman you were before the bomb... and now? What do you see as different? In all this chaos, what makes you smile?
You're wise in letting HIM be the one to put the energy into ending the marriage. What is he so unhappy about? Has he had time to look in the mirror and see for himself? The whole notion of the one who is causing us the greatest hurt is in fact incredibly fragile astounds me.
I'm reading a book now, "Why Bad Things Happen to Good People". The premise is how we should integrate our positive and negative, higher and lower selves or else we become our own worst enemies. There's a section about the 'masks' we wear based on how we want people to perceive us. The Martyr, The Nice Guy, The People Pleaser, The Bully.. etc. It gives insight into what motivates folks to behave a certain way, what they're masking and how to resolve it. Might be something interesting to thumb through.
In my case, I find I'm a mask collage of People Pleaser, Good Girl and Intellect. My spouse is an Intellect and Bully. Only in accepting ourselves can we as individuals move forward. Sounds like a common theme.. eh?
