I knew if I kept reading that you would rationalize your feelings..all which are very valid. When I read what your h does do, I picture a hard working, self employed guy..who has a bussiness that takes up most of his waking time right now and yet you say he has time to work in your own yard. I don't mean to say poor h, what is LL thinking!!!But we have a tendancy when we have been hurt and angry to only look for what we don't have, yet it could be there and we don't realize it.
It is great that you are able to step back and think through your feelings.
Make more time for just you..I know that being home all day with little ones is trying in it's self...that is when I used to resent if my h wanted to do anything outside of "us", and that has contributed to our breakdown now. You both need time apart and of course time alone together..so hard to fit it all in.
