5 hours sounds long to me!!! But glad you had fun.
Sounds like you are existing in a peaceful environment. Its so hard to have them move out, but wow to the peace they leave behind. People kept telling me that, but I was so terrified to think of him leaving, I wouldn't see it.
Sounds like you are existing in a peaceful environment. Its so hard to have them move out, but wow to the peace they leave behind. People kept telling me that, but I was so terrified to think of him leaving, I wouldn't see it.
Yay for the tooth fairy!!
Yes, peaceful is how I would describe my life right now and stressful is how I would describe my life before H moved out. I was dreading him moving out, but generally I think life has been better for me without all the craziness & rude behavior of my H.
D8 was very excited when the tooth fairy left 2 dollars for her under her pillow. I told her I think I got about a quarter when I lost mine--but I guess there has been a lot of inflation since then!
I am worried a little about the kids, though. I'm glad H finally agreed to them seeing the C. Apparently, S14 refused to get his dad a coke yesterday when H asked him to, which is very unlike him. He's generally a cooperative, helpful kid. When I told D8 she should call her dad today and tell him about the tooth fairy and some other stuff, she didn't seem very happy about the idea. I guess it's a lot of adjustment for them! Maybe all this is starting to sink in for them now or something? Karen
Karen, it sounds like they are mad too. My H gets upset that the kids don't really seem to care if he is around or not. I think they are mirroring what they get from him. Must not like what he sees. Did you ever find out how long OW has been around or are you just going from when he told you? Just curious. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Did you ever find out how long OW has been around or are you just going from when he told you? Just curious. kat
Well, H says he started his affair in December last year right after he asked me for a divorce & told me he didn't love me anymore (I think as a way to get rid of guilt he told me that and then started the PA that day probably), but really I think that is just when he started his PA.
By the way he was treating me for the past 18 months or so (always angry at me, yelling, calling me names, blaming me for everything like when he lost his keys, and gone much of the time) he started an EA with her (she was a coworker until about November) during that period. Their offices were right next to each other and I know they were texting a lot & sometimes calling each other on the phone before the PA. I know she complimented him a bit and he was enjoying that, and did think that was weird but I used to be so completely trusting back then!
He told me one week after he started his affair that he loved her, and I don't think that really happens in 1 weeks time so I am pretty sure they had an EA first. The whole thing kind of makes me sick b/c they are both married with kids. Karen
I know at one time my H told me she was divorcing her H and my H would divorce me and then he wanted to live with her. That was right after they started their affair about 4 months ago. He still hasn't filed for divorce, so I don't know what's going on, and I don't really care to discuss it with him. I know she is married now, but I think she will probably divorce her H or he will divorce her since she told him about her affair and she and My H are still having an affair.
She has been divorced a few times already, so I wouldn't be surprised if she gets divorced another time (she's gotta be a little messed up I think b/w that, having an affair when she is married & has kids with a man that is married and has kids, and I've been told her kids have some psych problems also). I'm sure she is also pressuring my H to divorce me which I'm not sure is good or bad! Karen
She has been divorced a few times already ... and has kids, and I've been told her kids have some psych problems also).
And "they" say kids are resilient when it comes to D. What a crock of crap. I really feel for those kids!
Joie
Although to be fair, I don't know if it was just the divorces that have messed up the kids--The OW also doesn't spend much time with her kids, she used to work until 7 or later with my H (supposedly working anyway), & when my H was living at home she was either out with him or texting H when he wasn't with her (nonstop)!. I think having that kind of checked-out mom may have messed them up a bit, too. Karen
Boy, our H's seem to pick winners!! I had read somewhere once that people cheat down, meaning that they don't get someone just like their spouse, but someone maybe a step or 2 down from their spouses level. Not trying to make that sound snobbish, just that the left behind spouse might have a strong moral system, work ethic, good parenting skills etc, and the OP does not have as strong as skills in these areas for example. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Karen