See I told you that you wouldn't like what I did this weekend.
I wasn't too mean was I??
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How come some people are told that they are detatching and everything while their S is having an affair and others are told that they are allowing their S to be cake eaters and they need to quit?
When I read this I really thought about it and wondered if I do it. The first person that comes to mind is Michelle and I know you are familiar with her sitch. Her H was/is having an A but she has gone out with him some...and we all told her how wonderful she was doing. To be honest, I don't know if I can pinpoint the difference, other than how you two sound so different in your posts. I do think she is more detached, but to be fair to you I think it is easier to be detached when you are separated than in the same house. I just feel like he is taking advantage of you.
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I know my H has it made. I know that I am allowing it most of the time. It is like something in me can't control it. I have been taking care of him for 7 years.
I can completely empathize. I did this and I still do it to an extent. But THAT is why we say he is cake eating...not because you went to dinner with him....because he can do whatever he wants and he is reaping the benefits of the M without any of the responsibility.
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The Holiday Inn here in town has a hot tub. Doesn't that sound nice? I think they also have Kareokee, which I love to do!
That sounds great! I really think you should do this. The hot tub sounds wonderful and very relaxing. Kareoke sounds like fun too...you deserve to have some fun!!
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Still am meeting with the lawyer. I don't think H realizes that I am doing this. Should I tell him tonight??
I don't know, maybe someone else can chime in on this. It may not be a bad idea to let him know. He needs to know you mean business.
