WOW! I can't believe your H's OW would have to nerve to show up at the hearing!! It sounds like both OW are out there!!!
I think I'm in denial b/c I do think he may come back one day. He seems to have moved on b/c he did get another job in another state, but I found out they are only renting a house. He is a good man & doesn't like women like her, he tried to talk a friend of ours out of marrying a woman who had been married 3 times, she is not nearly as bad as the one he is with now. I don't believe this R will last very long but he is mad at me b/c I got alimony & the house, so he does view me as the ememy also right now. I hope one day he will realize what he has lost.
I too believe the financial strain will get to him. I kept him out of bankruptcy when we first met & married. I'm the only reason he has IRA's etc. He is a spender & I know he thinks this OW has money & I don't believe she does, if she did she has spent it already. She stayed off work 2 years & spent her alimony or whatever she got from her other husbands. She has had to go back to work (2 jobs for a while) & she was living in an apartment, that doesn't sound like someone with money. Also she tried real estate but has had to get an office job. I know my H has spent lots of money & he is using his credit cards a lot & not paying them off at the end of each month. I always paid them off & kept us out of debt. He is going to get into major trouble financially & I know he is making about what he made at his job here but cost of living is higher there.
He had everything here, I can't believe he would go with a slut that would run after a married man. She has obviously done this before. What happened to "until death do us part".
