I strongly agree with the advice to get a consult from a L. Also, even if you believe the mediated deal is terrific for you, please pay to have an L look it over once for you before you sign.
It will give you a good idea of what to expect and what to bargin for in the settlement. I also was in therapy during the entire time (Which took several years) which REALLY helped me stand up for myself and set proper boundaries.
Good luck, SG
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