I wanted to be someone special to her. I wanted her to treat me in a way that made me feel special and important. To her mind, what I was asking for was for her to change, but she was just being herself.
when will we get it andy?? I thought I got it while h was gone during our seperation when he wanted a d...I got it..I understood that I expected him to make me feel good about me...I expected him to make me feel special...I understood then that it wasn't fair of me to put that burden on him...why can't I stick to that belief....I suppose that is where pma comes into play....funny thing is my battle with my pma is still there..when I'm up and feeling good about myself I feel like I shouldn't feel so good about myself...don't be so cocky I tell myself..but then what's wrong with knowing who and what you are and what you have to offer as long as your not pompus about it??? what's wrong with knowing youre special and not needing anyone to make you feel that way??
Quote: But she wants intimacy and sharing. And like your H, she doesn't want to hurt me. So all I can do is to stay the course and wait for her to make intimacy and sharing a priority.
maybe we make it too much of a priority?? maybe we are or were getting it from our spouses but becuase we were also "expecting" them to make us feel a certain way being intimate and sharing became difficult...to the point where it seems to much like work??
Quote: It's not a man/woman thing, LL. I think that deep down, your H wants it too. He just has to figure it out.
he does want it and needs it...that is why he went to ow...he is "trying" to have it with me and I am making it difficult with my "expectations"
sorry that your w is choosing to spend her winding down time with another...could you take a spin on the blades with her one day??? no expectations just a peacfull day of roller blading (I love roller blading feels to me like flying)
