Ive been following your thread, but Ive only posted i think once to you.
Im sorry you are going through this, its terrible. You've gotten a lot of good advice here, just wanted to chime in on some things:
1. If he is serious about changing, he has to become transparent, the issue about him not wanting to tell you where he has been is complete BS! He sounds like he is munipulating. you.
2. Definately like the idea of you going to a motel for the night, he needs something to think about.
3. This guy really has it made, why would he leave, you need to start making things difficult for him, what I mean is, stop taking care of him. It sounds like this is in your nature, but this is not helping your stitch, he needs to be reminded by what you do for him, and just maybe he will appreciate it more.
4. Def. keep your appt. with the lawyer, even if its to find out info, you need to be armed, and he needs to know you are serious.
5. Most WAS lie when they are in the midst of an A, unless he is willing to tell you everything, then I would believe nothing.
I'm not trying to be harsh, I just feel this guy needs serious scare for him to wake up. I don't want to see you hurt anymore.
Good luck today, be strong, and keep us informed.
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