Quote: I still hear anger and confusion and fear (all ASSumptions on my part) regarding h's a -- was it a PA after all and did he not give her what you want now in terms of intimacy?? Is that where you are? If so, I can see how that would feel like a blocker for you -- even if not consciously.
he already did share one of the most important parts of intimacy with her...quality time...they hung out together..sure h was home at night..but during the day admititeddly by him he was at her house 3x a week for a half hour or more...just hanging out...being a friend...calling her every day...just chatting..I don't feel like I get that from him. I'm sure that when he went to her house..they were not sitting watching tv..he was not working in the yard..he was not distracted at the puter researching this or that...he was attentive to her and her to him...if they were physical well that's just the whole bag of worms now isn't it...after all what is it that LL wants...to spend qt with her h...and to be touched in a loving way.
sure it's a blocker...h has nothing to say about it...it's in the past...don't make comparisions...that was then...I'm home now...etc etc etc...
Quote: Isn't another c appointment coming up? any thoughts on bringing up some of the topics at hand?
c appointment is next thurs night...actually c is already bringing up these topics...I just need to keep my big mouth shut and let him address it with h...speek when spoken too will have to be my mantra in the office...maybe it will make more sense to h if he hears it from anther and I don't join in to "attack"
Quote: Did ya crack open Mars and Venus yet???
I know, I know, but I can't help but not want to do it alone...it would be nice if h would be willing to hear some of it too...he was receptive to it when he first came home...now he just looks at the books and says...I'm not reading this stuff...
