NikB #26 (tentatively moving to Piecing, again)

[S.T. _I Made It!]

That is awesome Nik!!! Kinda makes the whole sitch seem worthwhile in a weird sick sorta way.

good job not apologizing for your feelings! I think apologizing for the timing isn't bad at all. it was bad timing, but H took it great! that is awesome!

IMHO, with the actions that H is providing, I really don't feel there is any reason for you to bring up the other text. I mean is he REALLY doing anything right now to question his loyalty? Did H respond to this most recent text? not that it would have been a big deal, especially since it wasn't the OTHER OW.

I think what needs to happen is just you and him discussing boundaries. not any particular event or person, but a boundary set for ANY person. are you going to ask him to not text or talk on the phone to any girl? I think that might be too much to ask for in a way. Or maybe, ask him for a while to help you with your trust by not contacting any girls for a certain amount of time. Because really, trust is the real issue. If you trust him, why would you have a problem with him having contact with the opposite sex on seldom occasions? Now some religions feel that any contact with the opposite sex should be done in the presence of the spouse, but I'm not so much there. I know my H has his female friends, but for the most part, he doesn't chat with any on a regular basis. I think that might be the key too, that if our spouse is talking to the opposite sex on a regular basis, that might be too much.

well, I would definitely not bring up this convo too soon after your anni... live in the moment of your anniversary.. it sounds like H is VERY glad to still have that! and I would ask H when he would like to talk about these kinds of things.

so glad for you!!! I knew you'd get here again!