I don't mind at all you "hi jacking" my thread...anytime feel free...I am truly sorry for the pain your dd is in and hope that she can come to terms with whatever demons she's currently facing.
as far as your sit..I am sorry that things are not well for you...
I hope that one day we can all have the r's we are seeking...and hopefully they will be with our spouses..for now I suppose all we can do is be our best.
I know that my h does care about me...I know that part of the problem has been that he does care and does try but that it is in his way...when I ask for my way...it is a slap in the face to him...
last night we did have a tif...it was the same old same old..you're not around..I feel alone..yada yada yada...h gets very frustrated with this..and I get very frustrated with this as well..especially since I have it made up in my mind that h was giving all that I want to ow...perhaps he was not and I just assume that he was...I don't know...
eventually h and I did hug...and h said...I know you are hurting LL and I'm sorry for that...I don't want you to hurt anymore...I am just being me...
I don't exactly know what to make of that statement other than perhaps h does love me and is showing me that he loves me and is working toward that "connection" but becuase it's not my way and because I'm waiting for my way..(and am getting it on occassion) I'm not always confident in it.