Good luck at the lawyer today Sara. Remember to write down questions and take them with you...otherwise you may forget.
I am not going to fuss at you for going to dinner with him (unless you bought him dinner!)...but here is the problem...he doesn't know what it would be like to lose you, and he doesn't know what it is like to miss you. You are there whenever he decides he wants you. What if one of those times you weren't there? Let him miss you.
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Basically I know that H doesn't want to come home because I always gripe at him about staying out too late.
So quit griping at him. Don't give him any ammo. I know that is easier said than done, but you have to detach. Maybe you should just pretend that you did have that conversation with him and he said he wanted to be single. Act the way you would have acted if he had said that.
If you keep doing what you are doing then it tells him that he can go out, stay out all night, not call you, not contribute...and its fine...because you will still be right there waiting. He has no consequences for his actions.
Look, I know this has got to be hard to do and still live in the same house. Maybe if you can afford it you can do the hotel thing just to get out of the house for a couple of days...it could save you sanity. I will be thinking about you today!!!
