I am not looking towards this psychic encounter to determine an outcome in my life, I think it maight just lead me on the right path. I am actually almost hoping she will say my future is not with H so I could move on in life. I am moving on, but I need ot get rid of some of the pain and betrayal to truly move on.
If your wanting the psychic to tell you your future is not with your H, I'm kinda thinking that's exactly what "looking towards this psychic encounter to determine an outcome in my life".
Gabby, what both you and B need to do IS move on with your life no matter if your trying to save your M or not. Part of DBing is moving on. We acknowledge that the old M is dead. we don't want that old M, it obviously didn't work. why would we want it? However, when we move on, we are able to let the opportunity of starting a NEW M with our spouses.
not to hi-jack the thread, but Gabby, why do you feel that if the psychic tells you H won't be in your future that it will lessen your pain? just curious. you can post on my thread if you want to or yours and let me know.
In order to get past the pain and betrayal, we truly have to learn to accept the present as it is, and we have to learn to forgive our spouse as they are. We don't have to forgive them to our face if they don't ask for it, but we need to do it in our hearts for ourselves. It doesn't happen overnight, this is a process. But it is a choice that we make. We can choose to live in pain and bitterness and anger, or we can choose to let it go and start looking at the positive things in our lives and make a choice to focus on those things so that we can make a great life for us in the future. I know it's tough, but we can all do this, and for us that have children, our children depend on us to do it.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
