Her being friendly is her holding on to the 'safety net', if you have any hope to save it, then you need to go tough love real quick, but truly it sounds terminal.
Good luck to you.
Me 38 Her 31 Daughter 3
Dated 5 yrs Married 7 PA Bomb 7/26/07 Sep 1 9/1/07 Sep 2 1/5/08