H is Having Affair after all - Part 2

[saffie]

Evie,

All your reactions are normal and you shouldn't ever give up on your M until YOU are ready to. That wasn't what I was meaning to say by my post - I don't think that is how you took it either.

I just don't want to give you false hope. When we first started conversing on your M, you didn't have half of the information available to you that you have now. One still doesn't know if you know 100% of all there is to know. I just look back and see that nearly all the way through he has tried to avoid confrontation and has said enough to keep you as pacified as possible whilst his actions have all been those of a man running away. For quite a while, (prior to the known involvement of OW), I really got the feeling he was confused and just trying to get his act together. Now I think he may well be confused still but his actions don't make me think his 'act' is intended to involve you. I think he wants to keep you on side as far as possible,(life is much easier whilst you are compliant), but in a quietly determined way he is going to follow his own course - whatever you say to him.

I don't think that means the M is over as such - I just don't see a quick resolution. I think he is going to have to walk his path, (which may involve OW more), and see for himself that sparks/ excitement don't last and life gets humdrum again.

I'm rambling so I am going to stop but I guess in summary what I would say is I think he is blaming you still, and is not ready for reconciliation at this point - but that's just MY opinion. I do think there is a very good chance he may change his mind in the future but his head is too far up his a$$ at the moment.