don't mean to be negative or put a bugger on the possitive outlook but the fact still remains that I understand that part of why h works so hard is becuase he wants to provide the best for me and the kids...he wants us to have it all despite the fact that we'd be happy with less...I know and accept that of him...I appreciate that he is such a hard worker...I accept that as his way of showing love...
BUT!!!
h was/is in love with ow and showed her a different way...the way that I want..the way that I need...he spent time with her...he went out to lunch with her..he was a friend with her..he was there for her...not just off making money for her or doing acts of service for her but giving her quality time...so then what is h's way????
then there's the question of was it a pa??? h says no...I sometimes accept that..but if it was a pa..well then there's both my love languages being spoken to ow...from a man who supposedly just isn't like that???
how can I fully accept that h is just the way he is..that this is the way he shows love..when he was showing a different love..the kind I want...to someone else???????
I know it was easier to make the qt for her...she was nearby during the day and he could stop in for a half hour here and there during the week...while I am at home...a distance from work and by the time he gets home he's tired...
I don't know where I'm going with this so I will stop...
