I wonder if maybe your W doesn't enjoy penetrative sex...since her first M also ended partly because of lack of SL.
Lets assume she doesn't enjoy penetration for whatever reasons...never has an orgasm...think of it from her POV if you can..namely if she gets zero pleasure why would she WANT to have sex????
If you never had sex prior to the M this is a distinct possibility.
So NOTHING you do is going to make the slightest difference unless she admits to you that SHE is the one with the problem IMO.
What about affection....is she affectionate towards you or did that end with the M too.
I mean kissing..and general forpelay pre M maybe it was good...but then she switched off when it came to more...to actual penetration.
Unless she was totally aroused and that can take a long time for some women .....not just a quick fumble a few kisses and away you go like they show on some porn movies.
Lets say you ask her what HER expectations of what a M should be only most people would agree that sex is part of M even LD spouses.
Ask her WHO you are expected to have sex with...since SHE is your W. If she argues just make the same point again...who are you supposed to have sex with unless you had an A which you don't want to do.
Unless you spell it out to her that your wishes are of equal importance what is going to change for YOU.... nothing.
